same-sex attraction - By Study and By Faith

Defensive Detachment

Hiding from others only results in an impoverished life, but being seen by them, though dangerous, leads to some of the greatest joys I know.

change

Good Questions

Some questions I have found useful.

science

Damaged Science

Honest science done by individuals with differeing worldviews can go a long way toward finding truth even about divisive, politically charged topics. Scientists should not be afraid to ask questions - even questions that may result in uncomfortable answers.

change

My experience is valid too

Some days can be hard. Some can be even harder. Today is one of those days.

therapy

Rejecting the term "Conversion Therapy"

Ethical therapists work to help their clients accomplish their chosen goals using standard techniques used for any unwanted behaviors or feelings. It is unfair and inaccurate to label these therapists as "conversion therapists".

change

Therapy stories

What follows are various experiences that others have shared with me that illustrate real help that people have received from therapy, or cases where people are not allowed to get therapy for reducing same-sex attractions and how that has affected them.

change

My Journey Beyond

I recently returned home from the Journey Beyond experiential weekend presented by Brothers Road. It was an amazing experience, and perhaps the best thing I have ever done in my life.

fidelity

Seeking other sexual partners is not brave

I have faith that in a future day men and women who stick by their spouses as they work through difficult things - as so many of the men and women that I know and love do - will no longer receive the ridicule and distain that they currently do from some in society.

change

Not Animals

I am not an animal. People who experience same-sex attraction and gender dysphoria are not animals. Yet Equality Utah appears to think that we are.

freedom

The trial of fighting for rights to therapy

It is so incredibly tiring and discouraging to fight for what should be such a simple, fundamental right - my right and my children's right to seek therapy for unwanted same-sex attractions.

change

Reasonable Expectations

It is important to remember what I can reasonably expect to change easily and what may take years to change – if it ever does – and that change in attractions does not determine my self-worth or standing before God.

freedom

Amazon Censors Change Therapy Books

Amazon is bowing to pressure from LGBTQ activists to censor ideas the activists don't like.

science

The limitations of scientific inquiry

While modern marvels testify of the power of the scientific process, science has major limitations, especially when it attempts to describe social and psychological processes.

growth

Progress and what it looks like

I began my journey with facing same-sex attraction head on with the assumption that nothing could change.

legislation

In support of HB399 sub 4

Please support HB399 sub 4 as written. Doing so will protect vulnerable youth by protecting them from abusive practices while still allowing adequate access to therapy

legislation

Testimony Against HB399 (Original Text)

My testimony against the original text of HB399

change

Lies of the American Psychological Association

Given the large life consequences to individuals who experience same-sex attraction, it is irresponsible of the APA to not be precise in what is actually known about sexual orientation change efforts.

legislation

Don't ban therapy for youth

Youth should have just as much right and access to therapy that adults have. Utah's proposed conversion therapy ban would remove that right from children.

legislation

Utah's Conversion Therapy Bill

An open letter to Utah's State Legislature.

change

Change, reframing and growth

The more I consider the specific changes I have experienced, the more I am convinced a better description for those changes is change, reframing and growth.

growth

Starving for friendship

As self-awareness continues to grow, I've begun perceiving my same-sex attractions as symptoms of starving for friendship, as manifestations of long-unmet needs for connection with other men.

change

Same-sex attraction and joy in the Gospel

It is a common misconception that people who experience same-sex attraction cannot find happiness in the gospel. Through my own experiences I know that happiness is not only possible, but a greater happiness can be found inside the gospel than out.

change

Owning my own story

My story is my own, not someone else's. My experience is mine and just because someone else, or many other people, have a different experience does not mean that my experience must conform to theirs.

legislation

Let clients self-determine. Period.

Clients should be able to determine the goal of therapy for same-sex attraction. Anything less is unethical.

family

Without ties, I'll never be free

The family - a husband, wife, and children - is foundational to God's plan for his children. Children need a dedicated father and mother to provide a place of safety and refuge where they can learn and grow. True happiness comes when individuals participate to the extent possible in this plan.